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3 Ways to Create Emotional Bookmarks for Passive Peaceful States

We tag all the events in our lives with emotions. That’s the way we remember them. If we had no emotional attachment to the event at all, it would be very difficult to recall it. Events with strong emotions like excitement, fear or anxiety, those are easy to remember because the emotion is so strong. But what about something like peace, quiet and serenity? It’s a little difficult to remember and evoke that same sense when you’re remembering perhaps being at the beach like I am today. Because it’s so calming it’s almost a passive emotion.

KEY #1

Use all the senses. Remember on purpose. Create that memory. When you encode that memory, don’t just listen to the sound of the waves passively. Think in your mind- I am listening to the sound of the waves. It seems silly, but if you don’t actually make a mental note of the things that you see, it’s just sort of easy for them to slip away and you don’t remember them. So involve all of your senses and do it actively rather than passively: So you see the waves, listen to the waves, smelling the salty air, maybe even tasting the salt in the air, feeling the temperature, feeling the wind. Involve all the senses and do it on purpose.

KEY #2

Find something unique about the event. Perhaps in your life, having peace and calmness IS unique, but to many people who do experience that once in a while, you need to find something just a little bit more unique. Maybe note the day, the time of the year or create a strange name for it. Declare it a holiday. Declare “ this is my Peaceful-Coronado- Friday.” Simply giving something a name is a way of book marking it.

KEY #3 in Creating an Emotional Bookmark for Peaceful States

Allow yourself to crank up the volume on your emotions. You get to choose how happy you want to be. You can say “ I’m happy today” and leave it at that or you can say “you know what, I can choose to be ten times happier than I am right now” even though it kind of blows it out of proportion. Well I wouldn’t say feeling ten times or a 100 times more peaceful than I am right now is blowing it out of proportion. If I could feel 100 times more peaceful than I do right now, even though I’m feeling really good,  I’ll take it!

That’s a good thing.

#1 Use all the senses.

#2 Make it unique.

#3 Crank up the volume.

“In the body-mindscape, we can choose to hold on to the fortresses of doubt, or we can choose to create waves of change to smooth our path.” ~ H. K. Meglasson